One answer.
Yes—if something feels off, I'd generally lean toward talking to him rather than letting the uncertainty grow.
It doesn't have to be a big confrontation. You could approach it with curiosity rather than blame: "I feel like things have been a little off between us lately. Am I imagining that, or do you feel it too?"
A few things can help:
- Pick a calm moment, not during an argument.
- Talk about how you're feeling rather than listing everything he's doing wrong.
- Give him room to explain his side.
- Pay attention not just to what he says, but whether he seems willing to understand and work through it with you.
And if you're hesitating because you're afraid of what you might hear, that's understandable. But sometimes having the conversation is less painful than sitting with the uncertainty.
If you tell me what's been happening between you two, I can help you think through whether this is something worth bringing up now and how to approach it.
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